Monday, March 2, 2009

Eloping...

Well ladies and gents...

After 17 months of planning and preparation, there is a 90% chance that myMr and I will be eloping this summer. It will not be just the two of us (our parents and siblings will accompany us) but we will not have our wedding as planned.

This has stemmed from an ongoing issue with my parents. I guess we can say that they have made many promises that they can't keep. They definitely take care of themselves.

Back in August, regardless of my opinions, my parents purchased a motor home. My parents have the tendency to spend money that they don't have on stupid stuff that they don't use. (3 boats, deck, patio, numerous patio furniture sets, cars, and now a motor home) They purchased this motor home in August and they STILL have not used it (just as I predicted).

Unfortunately, this motorhome has taken place of my college education and wedding. They have already told me that I am going to have to pay over $18,000 in loans (which they had promised that they would pay) and now, there is a REALLY good chance that they will not be providing us with the money promised for our wedding. I will find out in the next 30 days or so.

MyMr and I could pay for the wedding ourselves, but we have made our priorities, and having a large wedding is not one of them. We want to buy a house. We want to start our future feeling comfortable. Buying a house AND paying for a wedding would not set us up for a comfortable life style.

His parents have offered to help us pay for the wedding, but the last thing we want is for them to monitor everything my parents waste their money on like myMr and I do. It would just add unnecessary tension.

All I want is to be married to myMr. I dont need a big wedding. I just need him.

I will keep you all updated as I find things out. They have promised to give us $3K in March. We have another venue deposit due in April. If they flake on giving us the money, then we will not pay anymore deposits with our venue and we will elope. If they follow through, then we will still have a wedding. Only time will tell.

I hope they actually follow through.

Take care until next time,
hisMrs

11 Wedding Bells:

ladybugeg said...

I'm sorry for this....I hope everything turns out!

Adrienne said...

Oh you poor thing! That would be so hard! I feel for you. I hope everything works out for the best, but no matter what you still have your Mr! :)

Caroline said...

aw I'm really sorry. That's such an awful situtation. I'm glad that y'all seem okay with eloping, but I do hope that things work out as you want them to.

LauraAnn said...

I am so sorry to hear this! Hopefully everything will work out and you will still be able to have your wedding. If not, all that matters is that you are marrying the Mr, the love of your life. Keep your head up!

Hannah Noel said...

Oh dear! I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this stress. But if you are okay with eloping, more power to you! I'd love to elope right now because I'm just ready to be married. Screw the wedding!! lol

Katie said...

hope your parents come through in the end and it all works out.

Maybe they will even sell that motor home :-)

Thinking about you! Don't give up yet.

Amber said...

NO matter how it happens, the end result will still be a happy couple. A Wedding does not make a marriage. I commend you for standing up and not wanting to follow in your parent's footsteps financially. Besides you can always go to the courthouse then have a "party" in your new house down the road.

samiam4eva06 said...

OH NO!! I'm so sorry that this is happening for you. But I am proud that I read all you need is him! that is exactly how I feel.. my parents haven't ditched yet, but they're part of the reason I havent convinced mymr to let's go get married somewhere and buy a house. Its sounds like your not too disappointed! Either way, you and mr will be together.. forever. Look on the bright side :) keep us updated!

samiam4eva06 said...

OH NO!! I'm so sorry that this is happening for you. But I am proud that I read all you need is him! that is exactly how I feel.. my parents haven't ditched yet, but they're part of the reason I havent convinced mymr to let's go get married somewhere and buy a house. Its sounds like your not too disappointed! Either way, you and mr will be together.. forever. Look on the bright side :) keep us updated!

jane in the waiting line said...

that is awful, but no matter what, you are marrying the man you love, and that's what counts. hopefully everything turns out the way you want.

AmyJean said...

Girl, good luck ... and remember, at the end of the day, what is important is you and him! that's all! Wishing you the best!
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